Just a victimhood or serious?

Hey guys!

First of all, I am sorry for beeing offline for some days. I was not in the country, because some classmates and I went to the neighbour country to watch a small competition, where we also want to take part next year. So yeah, there I haven't the possibility to connect to the net.
We traveled there by train (about 10hours a single route!) and there I had a lot of time to search for a new topic which I want to write about.



As you can see, I found one. ^^ Some people around me bring me up to this topic... I really want to thanks them, because after I wasted some thoughts about this.... I found out that this one is important!

Do you know the feeling when you are down and wish someone would help you up, but you can't take the help, because you fear the the other one just believe that you are acting and want some attention? It doesn't matter how urgently you need this, everytime someone ask you just say "thanks, I am okay" and try to don't show how broken you are.
Yeah? You know what I am talking about? Than I am really sorry for ya... otherwise you should really continue reading, because you will find out something new.

Sometimes there are people which makes a really really big theater about nothing. Just a small thing happend and they act if they would like to kill their self because of that... but that's a insult for everyone who really deals with prolems like that...
Let's make an example! I create some fictitious persons and a fictitious situation. We call the main person Caddy. She just made a bad mark at school. ((Perhaps you are wondering, why I pick this "problem"? There is no connection to reallife... can be, must not.  But everyone knows this situation, because everyone failed at least one time at school.))
The best subject is math for failing (okay we can also pic english or an other subject, but hey! Everyone fails in math sometimes :'D )

So okay ^^ Now we have Caddy crying with her bad mark at the math test. Of course, that's bad for her grades, but she can still improve and make a better on at the next test. So it's no real problem right?
Right here! At this point! We have to be careful! Some of you would say "Yes? That's not a big deal... why is she crying? She only wants attention... so annoying!" the others will think "Omg, no the poor girl. Perhaps it's important to her?". And yeah that right... No one knows if she is just want to be a victim and hope to get some attention.... OR if this mark can have a big influence in here life...
Perhaps her dad hits her because of that? Or she is already depressed and she cannot cope with another low blow...

But how to find out which kind of situation it is?
And that's the question I asked my self the last days... There is no real definition about it, no step for step introdution to find it out. Only if you know the person really well you know it...
After thinking about this question for hours.... i nearly found out the solution!

Everyone who shows his problems (which just seems as small ones) in public, they don't really mean it like that. Why do I think so? That's pretty easy! Because people who are already down, think a lot about what others think about them... and they know if they would talk about their problems.... it seems to be just like theater... just to be in the spotlight....
So these people silence about the things which go through them... But these you sometimes really need help.... Not the person who want to be a victim, the person who get's all attention and compassion....
The real poor people just smile and say no thanks ^^ and the other want mostly answer with something like: "Okay, if u mean it"... No that's not the correct answer... the real-victim wish that the other one would be more stubborn and go to the nerv of the others.... of course... that must be someone who can deal with the problems of others and don't have tons of problems themselfs... but you know what I mean.
Otherwise it's also hard for the "normal" people, to see if someone is down... especially if this one hides the feelings and try to act "normal" too. Sometimes there is no way to recognise it, but this person still wishes that one day someone will come and stop them to fall down the cliff.

Upps! Sorry for this long post! I hope you can think a bit about this and perhaps if you are some of the "normal" ones... open your eyes... perhaps you can be a hero for someone!

Stay strong and live on!
Crylicx